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Weighted Blankets for Couples - the Do’s and Don’ts

January 13, 2022

Can we be real for a second? Weighted blankets are the new bedding MVP, and we can’t hide the fact that we’re a little obsessed. If you’re not exactly sure how they work, let us explain: a weighted blanket is a heavier than normal quilt that features evenly distributed pockets throughout, filled with materials like sand, plastic pellets, or small glass beads. 

Weighted blankets exert a constant, even, and gentle pressure on the body that feels amazing – just like you’re getting a big, relaxing hug. Because of this, all kinds of people are starting to appreciate the scientifically recognized benefits of using them on a nightly basis, including sleep improvement and insomnia relief, physical and mental relaxation, anxiety and stress reduction, and an overall calming sensation.

With more and more weighted blanket fans relying on their quilts of choice to get a great night’s sleep, one question has inevitably started to pop up. For those who share their bed with a spouse or partner each night, of which there are many, what is the best way to go about using a weighted blanket?

Is there even such a thing as a weighted blanket for couples?

And if so, which is the better option – buying one large, weighted blanket to share between you and your partner, or buying two separate, individually sized weighted blankets to be able to use one each? There’s a lot to work out!

That’s why we’ve crafted this Weighted Blankets for Couples Guide, just for you (well, and your significant other). 

Before we get into it, the answer to the first question is most definitely yes. While some weighted blankets out there do have labels stating that they are intended for individual use only, there are various larger options available on the market for couples. Take the Sunday Citizen 35 lb. Queen/King sized Snug Crystal Weighted Blanket, for example.

The most important thing, if you and your partner choose to go this route (or if your partner isn’t exactly involved in the decision-making process but you’ve made up your mind for the both of you), is to make sure the weighted blanket you pick meets the following key requirements. Oh, and we agree by the way - it’s for their own good. Once they give it a try, they’ll never look back!

Here are some of our key tips for finding the perfect weighted blanket for you and your partner:

1. Account for differences in body weight

Although this isn’t usually a significant factor when you’re shopping for a standard blanket or duvet, body weight is key to the selection process when it comes to picking the right weighted blanket. Experts recommend that, for an individually sized blanket (not including the weight of the blanket cover), the ideal weight should be as close as possible to 10% of the user’s body weight.

This proportion of weight is considered heavy enough to stimulate the key pressure points of the body, triggering the signature calming, relaxation response and providing maximum benefit to the user without causing them any kind of discomfort. Of course, individual preferences may vary, but approximately 10% is the standard recommendation.

However, when adding an additional user to the mix, experts’ recommendations change a little. For a couple sharing a weighted blanket, the ideal quilt weight changes to approximately 7-7.5% of the users’ total combined body weight, thus decreasing slightly.

So, what should couples do if they have vastly different body weights?

This is definitely an issue that couples may experience when it comes to choosing a shared blanket. It can be tricky if large weight and size discrepancies exist between you and your partner, because a weighted blanket that feels too heavy for you may feel too light for your partner, or vice versa. If you weigh 125 pounds, but your significant other weighs 250 pounds, your ideal blanket weights will be very different. And the last thing you want is to feel like you’re being smothered– that’s far from the relaxing, comforting sensation we’re looking for!

Some experts recommend two individual weighted blankets in this situation, or to simply find a happy medium through trial and error. If you’re going with the latter, look for brands with flexible return policies to allow you to try out your blanket for a few weeks and make sure you’re both completely happy with it.

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2. Choose the right sized blanket – for your partner and for your bed!

This one’s pretty self-explanatory - you’ll need to find a weighted blanket that easily covers both you and your partner if you want to make sure there’s no cover hogging going on! (If that doesn’t sound like much of an issue to you, we hate to break it to you, but you’re definitely the cover hogger of the relationship).

Try to buy accordingly for a Queen- or King-sized bed. Slightly oversized is okay (especially if you’re traumatized by the blanket thief in your life) but do bear in mind that you don’t want your weighted blanket to be draping so far down off your bed that it’s dragging along the floor. You want to get as many of the great benefits as possible, and that means effective weight distribution!

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3. Think carefully about the filling

Are you the kind of person who wakes up every time your partner rolls over or mumbles weird things in their sleep, whilst they sleep soundly like a baby through every. damn. noise? We get it - couples are often very different when it comes to how deeply they sleep! This is an important factor to consider when choosing the right filling for your weighted blanket. 

The general consensus is that the quietest filling material, thus the best option for light sleepers, is glass beads. These fine, smooth beads, as well as being higher quality and more durable than many other fillers, barely make a sound when touched, eliminating any concerns about noise disrupting you or your partner’s slumber. 

At Sunday Citizen, in addition to premium glass beads, we take our weighted blanket filling one step further with the addition of thousands of tiny pieces of naturally healing crystals, including:

- amethyst, said to cleanse negative energy and relieve stress

- clear quartz, considered to be the “master healer”, amplifying the effects of surrounding crystals

- rose quartz, said to inspire compassion and support emotional and relationship healing

4. You’re hot and you’re cold

Ideal sleeping temperature is yet another factor that seems to divide couples right down the center. Ever find yourself getting up in the middle of the night to sneakily turn the AC up, only to notice that it’s 3 degrees lower than that “compromise” you and your partner came to last night? Let’s not even go there.

When picking out a couple’s weighted blanket, it’s essential to consider your preferred types and weights of fabric to find something you’re both happy with. Breathability is key, and while ultra-soft and cozy is also a must, it’s important to find fabric with a cooling effect if you’re a hot sleeper, to stay fast asleep and comfy all night long. The bamboo fabric on our Bamboo Crystal Weighted Blanket has such a cooling effect, making it a great option for hot sleepers or during those summer nights.

5. Easy care = easy life

Dividing household chores is rarely straightforward for couples living under the same roof, so why add another one to the list? We recommend finding a weighted blanket with easy care instructions. Removable covers are great for this, and machine washable elements are a huge bonus - having to hand wash the cover of your weighted blanket on a regular basis will get old very quickly!

And there you have it! Our top 5 tips to consider when picking out the perfect weighted blanket for you and your partner to cozy down under. 

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Benefits of a shared weighted blanket for you and your partner

Overall, the very concept of sharing a weighted blanket is pretty genius in our opinion – not only will you save your hard-earned cash by investing in one blanket instead of two, but a shared blanket also tends to look more aesthetically pleasing and “put together” on your bed than two separate ones.

Don’t forget, there’s also the time-saving aspect in terms of taking care of and washing one weighted blanket instead of two. And finally, if you prefer to stash your blanket away during the day and bring it out again at night, a shared blanket will also take up less storage space than two individual ones – we’re all familiar with the struggles of small apartment life! 

If you and your partner are struggling to get a great night’s sleep, a Sunday Citizen weighted blanket might be the answer to your prayers. After all, great sleep leads to well-rested, happy, and patient people… which sounds a lot like the recipe to a successful relationship, if you ask us!

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